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Parent-Infant Relationship Service (PaIRS)

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If you’re expecting a baby or have a young baby, you may sometimes find it hard to feel close or connected. PaIRS can support you to understand your feelings and build a stronger, more positive relationship with your baby. With the right support, many parents find it easier to bond, feel more confident, and enjoy time with their baby.

About the team

We are a small, caring team who work closely with parents and babies. We can come to the family home to see you for appointments, sessions or meet you in a place that best suits you.

Our team bring different skills and experience to help you feel more confident and build a warm, positive relationship with your baby.

Who this service is for

We can usually help if:

  • You are expecting a baby or have a baby under 1 year old
  • You are finding it hard to feel close to your baby or enjoy time together
  • You are unsure how to respond to your baby’s needs or signals
  • You feel worried, low, distant, or overwhelmed in your relationship with your baby
  • You would like support to understand your baby and build a more positive bond
  • You want a safe space to talk and think about your feelings as a parent

We may not be the right service if:

  • Your child is over 1 year old
  • You are mainly looking for help with your child’s feeding, sleep, or physical health needs
  • You need urgent or crisis mental health support
  • You are not able to take part in sessions focused on your relationship with your baby

Getting help from this service

Professional referral only

This service accepts referrals from professionals, including GPs, only. If you're unsure who can refer you, contact us for advice.

Questions and answers

What happens at the first appointment?
At your first appointment, you will have time to talk about how things have been for you and your baby. Together, you’ll start to think about what support might help..
What will we do in the sessions?
Sessions may include talking, observing your baby, and gentle activities like play or baby massage. You may be supported to notice your baby’s signals and think about what they need. Everything is done at your pace.
How long will I have to wait?
Waiting times can vary depending on demand in your area. You will be contacted as soon as an appointment is available. If you are worried while you are waiting, it’s okay to seek support elsewhere.
How many appointments will I have?
This can be different for everyone. Some families only need a few sessions, while others may need support for longer. You will agree a plan together based on what feels helpful for you.
What if I feel nervous about coming?
It’s completely normal to feel nervous, especially if you’re sharing personal feelings. The team is there to support you and help you feel comfortable. You can take things at your own pace.
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