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Swallowing, Eating and Drinking

If your child is finding it hard to swallow, eat, or drink, it can be worrying and may affect daily life for the whole family. You might notice coughing, choking, long mealtimes, or your child refusing certain foods or textures. You are not alone, and there is support available to help you understand what is happening and what you can do.

More about swallowing, eating and drinking

Swallowing, eating and drinking difficulties can make mealtimes stressful for you and your child. It may include trouble chewing, food getting stuck, coughing, or refusing certain foods or textures. Many children go through phases of picky eating, and this is often a normal part of growing up.

Swallowing, eating and drinking difficulties can make mealtimes stressful for you and your child. It may include trouble chewing, coughing, food getting stuck, or refusing certain foods or textures. Many children go through phases of picky eating, and this is often a normal part of growing up.
These difficulties can happen for different reasons. Your child may be sensitive to taste, texture or smell, or may feel unsure about trying new foods. Sometimes it can be linked to how their mouth muscles work, making chewing and swallowing harder.

It can feel upsetting to see your child struggle at mealtimes. Meals may take a long time or feel tense, and you might worry about your child eating enough. Keeping mealtimes calm and relaxed can help. Offer regular meals and snacks, eat together where you can, keep offering new foods, and praise small successes without forcing your child to eat.

Some simple activities can help build eating and drinking skills. Try fun blowing games like bubbles or candles, or practice drinking through different straws to build mouth strength. You can also use games with mirrors or songs to help your child practise closing their mouth and moving their lips. Seek help if things are not improving, if you are worried about your child’s weight, or if they often cough, choke, gag or become distressed when eating or drinking. You are not alone, and support is available.

Dribbling and drooling are common as children learn to control their saliva. It may be more noticeable when they are teething, tired, unwell, or concentrating, especially during play. Good head and body position can help children swallow more easily.

You can support your child by keeping them upright, offering regular drinks, and keeping mealtimes calm. Try fun activities like blowing, using straws, or sucking foods to build mouth strength. Wipe gently only when needed and encourage your child to notice when they are wet. Seek help if drooling continues, affects their skin, or causes concern — support is available.

Questions and answers

Is it normal for my child to refuse food or be a picky eater?
Yes, many children go through phases of refusing new or different foods. This is a normal part of development and often improves over time. Keep offering a variety of foods without pressure and try to stay calm at mealtimes.
Why does my child cough or gag when eating or drinking?
Coughing or gagging can happen if food or drink is going down the wrong way or is hard to manage. It may be linked to how your child chews or swallows. If this happens often, it is important to get advice.
What can I do to help my child at mealtimes?
Keep meals relaxed and offer regular meals and snacks. Eat together when you can and be a good role model. Praise small successes and avoid forcing your child to eat, as this can make things more stressful.
Are there simple activities that can help with eating and drinking?
Yes, fun activities like blowing bubbles or using straws can help build mouth strength. You can also play games with lips and mouth movements using mirrors or songs. These small activities can support your child’s skills over time.
When should I seek help?
You should seek help if your child’s eating is not improving or you are worried about their weight or growth. Get advice straight away if they often cough, choke, gag, or seem upset when eating or drinking. Support is available to help you understand what is happening and what to do next.

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